Today it is brought to my attention , how much i really like my mum. I suppose I should be using the word 'love' but the way i was brought up, it would be such a mushy thing to say even to family, but you get my point.
It's been boring not having her around to talk to. Or just shop with. I think I'm beginning to understand the importance of having daughters. Anyway..
It's been cloudy these few days, and i really enjoy that sort of weather. If it's a reflection of how i've been feeling these days, i hope it gets sunny soon.
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Saturday, November 17, 2007
Friday, November 16, 2007
Embracing Fear
Today after my driving lesson, i went to the library, and came across an Oprah magazine. In it was an article about fear, and how it prevents us from making the most out of our life.
It spoke about a woman who had a fear of flying after the Sept 11 attacks, and then later on, had a fear of driving, and slowly her fear spiraled out of control and soon she was depending on drugs to help her fall asleep, or to just help her function daily. The writer recommended that the best way to conquer our fears is to learn to embrace them. You see ,fear prevents us from doing certain things because we are afraid to 'hurt' ourselves. It can be a defense mechanism, to protect us physically from jumping off the tallest building, or trying that bungee jump experience.It can also be a mental thing, that goes in to auto pilot, and associates anything to do with that fear with whatever you relate it to. For example, if you had a bad breakup after a long relationship, then you would feel miserable, and any place you had gone with your ex ( the beach, a particular shopping centre, your favourite hunts you had shared with that person) will immediately be associated with that heartbeak, and so your mind has programmed that emotion (fear/sadness/rejection) to that 'visual' ( beach , shopping centre, etc).
And then if you don't keep it under control, you will soon run from anything and everything you're afraid of.
So the solution is to embrace fearing. Embrace suffering. It's only when you allow yourself to go against your fear, will there be a fighting chance of you succeeding in living your life normally, or even to the fullest that it can be.
It spoke about a woman who had a fear of flying after the Sept 11 attacks, and then later on, had a fear of driving, and slowly her fear spiraled out of control and soon she was depending on drugs to help her fall asleep, or to just help her function daily. The writer recommended that the best way to conquer our fears is to learn to embrace them. You see ,fear prevents us from doing certain things because we are afraid to 'hurt' ourselves. It can be a defense mechanism, to protect us physically from jumping off the tallest building, or trying that bungee jump experience.It can also be a mental thing, that goes in to auto pilot, and associates anything to do with that fear with whatever you relate it to. For example, if you had a bad breakup after a long relationship, then you would feel miserable, and any place you had gone with your ex ( the beach, a particular shopping centre, your favourite hunts you had shared with that person) will immediately be associated with that heartbeak, and so your mind has programmed that emotion (fear/sadness/rejection) to that 'visual' ( beach , shopping centre, etc).
And then if you don't keep it under control, you will soon run from anything and everything you're afraid of.
So the solution is to embrace fearing. Embrace suffering. It's only when you allow yourself to go against your fear, will there be a fighting chance of you succeeding in living your life normally, or even to the fullest that it can be.
Monday, November 12, 2007
The Mystery Thing.
Cue scarey music : Deng deng DENGGG!!!!!
Carol and i walked out of the lift only to see this!
Of course , i did a mock ' BEWAREEE!'
It's an orange little bear like object sitting on the staircase. HAHAHA.. Ok, maybe i'm lame, but you have to admit, it's quite funny. In a creepy way.
Carol and i walked out of the lift only to see this!
Of course , i did a mock ' BEWAREEE!'
It's an orange little bear like object sitting on the staircase. HAHAHA.. Ok, maybe i'm lame, but you have to admit, it's quite funny. In a creepy way.
Saturday, November 10, 2007
Quote
A nice quote that came to mind yesterday :
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
That's from the show Princess Diaries, and also a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
That's from the show Princess Diaries, and also a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt.
I love good deals!
This past 2 days have been good days of shopping! Alright, now, I'm not saying i spent a lot, and if i did, it's usually not much, because i pride myself on getting good deals! Oh no i sound so 'hao lian' !
Yesterday i was at Orchard Cineleisure , and guess what? A pushcart is selling Nail Art 3D stickers for ONE DOLLAR!! Even, me who isn't so much of a Nail Art kinda girl, bought 6 at a go. ( because buy 6, have 1 free! )I'm now going to decorate my nails occasionally for the fun of it!
I went to Muji too, and they were selling nice sandals for 30 - 50% off! Original price is $45 bucks, and i happened to spot one that was going at half price. Maybe they tagged it wrongly, but anyway, i didn't get the shoes.
Then i went to Bugis, and walked around the usual 'cheap' spots. At one stationery stall, they were selling Christmas Decors/ gifts for REALLY cheap. You know those round balls they use as ornaments on Christmas trees? They were selling it as nicely designed candle holders for TWO DOLLARS each, the bigger one for FIVE DOLLARS each. Russ 'Ornament' picture frames for FIVE DOLLARS, and a whole lot of other stuff. Good for gifts for the office since Christmas is round the corner.
Today in the evening, there is something like a mini flea market under the Tampines MRT tracks. I got that info from a friend of mine, and it seems they have it every 2nd week of the month. Anyway, it's really interesting what they sell there. I bought more NAIL ART stuff , and a rubber stamp pre-loaded with ink for FIFTY CENTS and then this is the best part. There was a lady selling stationery and i told Caroline, " If they sell G-Tec pens for cheap, I'm going to get a few. " And they DID! If you know the price of a G-Tec pen, they go for 3.80 to 4 bucks a piece. So buying the refills are cheaper because they only cost $1.60. But these G-Tec pens the lady was selling cost only ONE DOLLAR FIFTY for one! There were all sorts of colors, and I bought 4 immediately.( Maybe i should have gotten more? ;p) And you know there's this 'Tiara' pen series that comes in different colors, and there's glitter in it ? They were going at ONE DOLLAR for one, and 4 for $4.50. I bought one. But you know, there are SO many other types of pens there , that I'm sure students are going to love stocking up for school next year.
I think tomorrow's the last day for flea market though.
Yesterday i was at Orchard Cineleisure , and guess what? A pushcart is selling Nail Art 3D stickers for ONE DOLLAR!! Even, me who isn't so much of a Nail Art kinda girl, bought 6 at a go. ( because buy 6, have 1 free! )I'm now going to decorate my nails occasionally for the fun of it!
I went to Muji too, and they were selling nice sandals for 30 - 50% off! Original price is $45 bucks, and i happened to spot one that was going at half price. Maybe they tagged it wrongly, but anyway, i didn't get the shoes.
Then i went to Bugis, and walked around the usual 'cheap' spots. At one stationery stall, they were selling Christmas Decors/ gifts for REALLY cheap. You know those round balls they use as ornaments on Christmas trees? They were selling it as nicely designed candle holders for TWO DOLLARS each, the bigger one for FIVE DOLLARS each. Russ 'Ornament' picture frames for FIVE DOLLARS, and a whole lot of other stuff. Good for gifts for the office since Christmas is round the corner.
Today in the evening, there is something like a mini flea market under the Tampines MRT tracks. I got that info from a friend of mine, and it seems they have it every 2nd week of the month. Anyway, it's really interesting what they sell there. I bought more NAIL ART stuff , and a rubber stamp pre-loaded with ink for FIFTY CENTS and then this is the best part. There was a lady selling stationery and i told Caroline, " If they sell G-Tec pens for cheap, I'm going to get a few. " And they DID! If you know the price of a G-Tec pen, they go for 3.80 to 4 bucks a piece. So buying the refills are cheaper because they only cost $1.60. But these G-Tec pens the lady was selling cost only ONE DOLLAR FIFTY for one! There were all sorts of colors, and I bought 4 immediately.( Maybe i should have gotten more? ;p) And you know there's this 'Tiara' pen series that comes in different colors, and there's glitter in it ? They were going at ONE DOLLAR for one, and 4 for $4.50. I bought one. But you know, there are SO many other types of pens there , that I'm sure students are going to love stocking up for school next year.
I think tomorrow's the last day for flea market though.
Wednesday, November 07, 2007
A bug called Fear.
I've been bitten by a bug, and it's been bugging (pun not intended) me for a long time. It is a terrible thing to catch.
Excerpt from GotQuestions.org :
God tells us not to be afraid of being alone, not to be afraid of being too weak, not to be afraid of not being heard, and not to be afraid for our physical necessities. And these “fear not” admonishments continue throughout the Bible covering the many different aspects of the “spirit of fear.”
However, these “fear nots” are dependent upon our ability to put our trust and faith in the Lord. In Psalm 56:11 the psalmist writes, “In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me.” This is an awesome testimony to the power of trusting in God. What the psalmist is saying is that regardless of what happens, he will trust in God. This is the key to overcoming fear - total and complete trust in God.
It is a refusal to give into fear. It is a turning to God even in the darkest times and trusting in God to make things right. This trust comes from knowing God and knowing that He is a good God who only wants to give His children good things. It is as Job said when he was experiencing some of the most difficult trials recorded in the Bible, “Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him (Job 13:15).”
Once you have learned to put your trust in God you will no longer be afraid of the things that come against you. You will be like the psalmist and, “…let all those that put their trust in thee rejoice: let them ever shout for joy, because thou defendest them: let them also that love thy name be joyful in thee" (Psalm 5:11).
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
--I John 4:18
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
--II Timothy 1:7
And here are other quotes from famous persons :
The game of life is a lot like football. You have to tackle your problems, block your fears, and score your points when you get the opportunity.
--Unknown
Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do.
--Pope John XXIII
Anything I've ever done that ultimately was worthwhile initially scared me to death.
--Betty Bender
Love is always creative, fear always destructive.
--Emmet Fox
Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.
--Helen Keller
Usually a person has more faith in their fear than faith in their future.
--Doug Firebaugh
A life lived in fear is a life half lived.
--Spanish proverb
Excerpt from GotQuestions.org :
God tells us not to be afraid of being alone, not to be afraid of being too weak, not to be afraid of not being heard, and not to be afraid for our physical necessities. And these “fear not” admonishments continue throughout the Bible covering the many different aspects of the “spirit of fear.”
However, these “fear nots” are dependent upon our ability to put our trust and faith in the Lord. In Psalm 56:11 the psalmist writes, “In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me.” This is an awesome testimony to the power of trusting in God. What the psalmist is saying is that regardless of what happens, he will trust in God. This is the key to overcoming fear - total and complete trust in God.
It is a refusal to give into fear. It is a turning to God even in the darkest times and trusting in God to make things right. This trust comes from knowing God and knowing that He is a good God who only wants to give His children good things. It is as Job said when he was experiencing some of the most difficult trials recorded in the Bible, “Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him (Job 13:15).”
Once you have learned to put your trust in God you will no longer be afraid of the things that come against you. You will be like the psalmist and, “…let all those that put their trust in thee rejoice: let them ever shout for joy, because thou defendest them: let them also that love thy name be joyful in thee" (Psalm 5:11).
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
--I John 4:18
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
--II Timothy 1:7
And here are other quotes from famous persons :
The game of life is a lot like football. You have to tackle your problems, block your fears, and score your points when you get the opportunity.
--Unknown
Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do.
--Pope John XXIII
Anything I've ever done that ultimately was worthwhile initially scared me to death.
--Betty Bender
Love is always creative, fear always destructive.
--Emmet Fox
Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.
--Helen Keller
Usually a person has more faith in their fear than faith in their future.
--Doug Firebaugh
A life lived in fear is a life half lived.
--Spanish proverb
Carol's Pre-Wedding Pics
Hello, and ok i can't remember exactly what words to us, but it's not her actual wedding day pictures!
I'm going to upload some for now, cause we don't have the actual pics yet, so you'll see a big JOHN LIM on it. He's the photographer!
Here's one of them in the studio.
And another one in a different dress.
Her evening gown.
Check out Yan Ling and his cool look!
Carol's wedding dress!
I think Carol looks like a spanish bride, but the look is vintage!
At the train staion.
Well, there's alot others, but i can't seem to get the right pics saved. Any how, the wedding is in 3 months.
I'm going to upload some for now, cause we don't have the actual pics yet, so you'll see a big JOHN LIM on it. He's the photographer!
Here's one of them in the studio.
And another one in a different dress.
Her evening gown.
Check out Yan Ling and his cool look!
Carol's wedding dress!
I think Carol looks like a spanish bride, but the look is vintage!
At the train staion.
Well, there's alot others, but i can't seem to get the right pics saved. Any how, the wedding is in 3 months.
Friday, November 02, 2007
Breathe.
I'm watching this show called '101 Objects removed from a human body'. Called Caroline a while to chat about the show a bit, and worked a bit on my lesson tomorrow. I guess i'm nervous about tomorrow . ( as usual) I just want to make sure i know enough that if anyone would to ask me questions tmr, i would be able to answer back.
Also, it feels really lonely now. My parents have gone for a short holiday, and will be back on Saturday. I mean, normally i would be ok, but i think it's just nerves la, so i have this weird feeling in my stomach, wishing that my parents, or someone would be around. Carol's real nice for saying i can call her anytime, and even asking if i wanted to sleep over. But it's too much of a rush, and i'm afraid i would forget something, and have to head back home.
How can i be such a cowardly person? I guess everyone is that way, they just deal with it differently. I'm really glad i can pray for calmness whenever i'm afraid. I think any normal person would be tired of my being scared, but i'm glad that at least God never gets tired. Me and a friend nearly got into a pretty serious accident on Wed night, it happened so quickly i think if the car had hit us, i would have broken a hip or something. Thank God nothing happened.
p/s: i just saw a maggot pulled out of a woman's scalp! YUCKS!!! Totally wished i did not see that....
Also, it feels really lonely now. My parents have gone for a short holiday, and will be back on Saturday. I mean, normally i would be ok, but i think it's just nerves la, so i have this weird feeling in my stomach, wishing that my parents, or someone would be around. Carol's real nice for saying i can call her anytime, and even asking if i wanted to sleep over. But it's too much of a rush, and i'm afraid i would forget something, and have to head back home.
How can i be such a cowardly person? I guess everyone is that way, they just deal with it differently. I'm really glad i can pray for calmness whenever i'm afraid. I think any normal person would be tired of my being scared, but i'm glad that at least God never gets tired. Me and a friend nearly got into a pretty serious accident on Wed night, it happened so quickly i think if the car had hit us, i would have broken a hip or something. Thank God nothing happened.
p/s: i just saw a maggot pulled out of a woman's scalp! YUCKS!!! Totally wished i did not see that....
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